Lack attack

Hey Mr/Dr/Professor Loy,

Throughout much of the book-and i guess throughout much of Buddhism too- problems in our modern world are attributed to the fake sense of self we have within, and the huge overall lack that we have (or don't have) deep down at our core. In your chapter about war, you say that war is so attractive and even addictive for us specifically because of that unacknowledged sense of lack. While i would say that war sometimes arises from a few other reasons, (and on some occasions maybe even a justifiable reason) i agree with you for the most part. The chapter goes on to explain that war gives us a meaning "because it provides a reassuring way to understand what is wrong with our lives." While i really am not sure what that sentence means, the next line clearly says that the reason we like war is because it allows us to project our feelings of self lack outwards and onto the enemy. This does make sense to me, but in general, this sense of lack and our attempts at filling up the bottomless pit within seem to be the given reason for all our negative actions. Indeed, you say that our urges to shop, consume, become famous, and make money are all because of this lack. But the explanation of why we like war so much can't be applied to why we like the others. How can things so drastically different, like war and sex, both come from one great feeling of lack ?